This week a client session proved to be quite interesting when we delved into an issue she’s had for forever. This client struggles with feelings of being judged by others and caring about what others think. At first glance I thought these were basically the same issues worded differently but, when I tuned into the energy I was shown how different they are.

It's all about intention - intention determines energy.

Let’s look at judgement first. She always felt judged by her family. The case we dealt with in this session was more than just judgment; it was a spiritual attack from her family member. The intention behind the judgement determines whether it is an attack or someone being discerning. When I began my spiritual journey I struggled with the new age teachings demanding I don’t make judgments, inferring I’m not spiritual if I do. I struggled with this, in fact I discovered a lot of gas lighting within new age spiritual teachings. I value boundaries and to have healthy boundaries you need to be selective, and make judgements. Maybe it was an issue with the teachings I was looking at in particular. However, they failed to dig deep enough into this work. They were superficial and surface-level. It is critical to evaluate people and situations to determine what is right for us so we can create healthy boundaries and habits. However, we shouldn't judge other people for who they are, live and let live, and only judge if it is right for you.

My client was dealing with a judgement attack. She was being judged by someone who compared themselves to her. Insecurity on their part. For them to decide that they were doing better than her in life made them feel better about themselves. How sad. It is easier to let go of fear of judgement from others when you understand they do it only to feel confident about themselves. It often has nothing to do with us at all. 

The session also dealt with my client's issue with caring about what others think of her. This is an issue with her own self-esteem and self-worth. People rarely worry about us as much as we imagine they do. We waste so much energy worrying about this. Most people are focused on their own lives, their own struggles and don't think about us. Caring about what others think of us blocks our authenticity. We tend to make choices around what others agree with rather than what we really want in life. We sensor ourselves, we hold back and don't speak up, we don’t allow ourselves to feel, think and be true to who we really are.

This blocks our true path.

Keeping unhealthy friendships out of fear of what others will think of you, for example, is caring about what others think to the detriment of yourself. This is not caring about what you believe about yourself. You are not only livinginauthentically you are sending a message to the universe that this is what you want in your life. So the universe sends you more toxic people and situations. You end up living an unhealthy life with toxic people and living in a way that is not your truth. You will never find your purpose this way. Your life will lack purpose, meaning, and truth.

No matter how you slice it, caring about what others think of you, worrying about being judged for being yourself and not being true to yourself is a gateway to a toxic life.

Take a moment to check yourself.

• How honest are you with yourself and others?

• Do you remain in toxic relationships/friendships/situations when you really want them to end?

• Are you afraid of speaking your truth?

• Do you sensor yourself around others?

• Is it common for you to walk on eggshells around others/someone?

• Do you fear others' judgement?

If you tick any of the above and you would like assistance with digging deeper into these issues to find and heal the root cause so you can live free of fear, contact me today.

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